see beauty in nothing… see beauty in everything

It has been a while since I’ve blogged. Amazingly enough I’ve seen miraculous things in the past few weeks that have affected my life in dramatic ways. I’ve done things for others. I’ve done things with others. I’ve done things to help the greater good of humanity. All I know now is the balancing structure of success in a relationship, a success in business, a success in my life. Slowly but surely I’m heading there. But it has to now “…head toward that vision of my future self, at breathless, reckless speed, and to the exclusion of all else. Don’t slow down, don’t take time to analyze things, don’t consider the cost. Stop making other people comfortable. Doing so keeps you small. It is time to be magnificent.”
~Z.P. 

A wondrous thing in life is to see the beauty in nothing to see beauty in everything. I’ve slowly strayed away from that aspect of my life. As building a business goes on I’ve been ultimately lost in my doing that I forgot what it meant to be me.

Again I looked to techniques and tools, which are amazingly effective, but I forgot why I was here. A connection had become lost from the passion of my work, to my “running the business.” I lost all forms of what it meant to be totally aware of the now. After a hey-day of mistaken decisions this passed week, I realize that my 3 steps back was indeed a neccessity to move forward. But the question remains, “how far have i gone forward?” I have nothing tangible to hold in my hand. Will I ever? What clarifies me as something? As being somebody? What clarifies my existance? It’s not the idea of being a coach. It’s not the idea of being madly in love with yourself. What clarifies my existance? What am I seeking? What am I searching for? Will this again be another failed attempt to live a life full of potential or another failed attempt at something I want? The feeling of coaching is great. But there’s something bigger than all this. There’s something bigger than my life. There’s something about being on that stage that I want so bad but can’t put my finger on. In alignment, with one self. In alignment to the ideas and virtues of my own life. Who am I?

Are we at all experiencing life? Are we all…. Aren’t we all experiencing life now? I’m stuck in my past and stuck in my future. It’s time to move on. Pass the early failures pass the late successes. Where is my goal now?

The Twitter Phenom

I’ve been amazed by all the new Social Media content that’s been blasting it’s way through the internet today. Even PCWorld Magazine has a few page article explaining what twitter is and it’s uses and advantages of becoming a twitter phenom. It’s a simple an amazing way to ‘micro-blog’ your way to straight and to the point facts about what your doing. I registered with the Anthony Robbins Foundation as a Las Vegas Coordinator for this coming Thanksgiving Basket Brigade. Sites like, LinkedIn, Meetup.com, facebook, and Twitter helps me get the word out.there’s even a place called tweetup! haha. It’s all about efficiency and effectiveness these days. And even Nevada’s Early Voting is efficient and fast, no matter if you vote for Mccain or vote for Obama

With the world becoming smaller everyday thanks to sites like Google, Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, Meetup.com, and LinkedIn it’s easy to get caught up in the humdrum of daily life kind of forgetting and becoming robotic in nature. In a world that’s everchanging and uncertainty boils in times like these, the tools to quickly find oneself is key. So make sure to sit and relax in times like these. You never know what crazy idea you might come up with.

The Past 3 Months…

During the past 3 months I’ve been working with a coach. A requirement of ICA is to be coached by your peers at least once. It took a while for me to find a real coach I could mesh with. But once I did, little did I know how much of an impact it would have on my life. Within 3 months of coaching I successfully turned my life around. In 3 months alone I went from being a depressed and lonely little boy to a more mature grown young man. I went from the destructive habits of a Vegas party lifestyle (drugs and alcohol) to a life of gratitude. I’m grateful for the major shift that coaching has given me. I am now in alignment with my life. Gone are the days of fear, self-doubt, low self-esteem, destructive habits, loneliness, and misguided action. Here are the days of fulfillment; love, passion, faith, courage, self-honesty, and integrity.

3 months changed my life. Are you willing to change your life for the better? Or will you still be running east looking for that sunset?

I strive to be the best life/discovery coach for all 20-somethings and above. The goal is to help people find their purpose and meaning in life and help them live it. What’s your passion? Is it in you?

3 months can and will change your life.

The Tribe

Today is one of those days where you feel like you don’t want to do anything. I’ve been literally overworking myself to the bone. I haven’t been taking care of myself very well. After work, it’s back to home and the real work begins. I’ve pretty much been dealt the “Can you handle this?” hand. At this point it’s taking more effort for me to get up in the morning. The thing that’s fueled me even though I’m coughing up a storm has been my passion to get this life coaching thing on the road.

I talk to a bunch of customers at work and there are a few times where I meet the ‘right’ people. They just happen to pop up. I’ve been lucky enough or blessed enough to find these people and connect with them. People ask me what I do these days, and being the young, ambitious, inexperienced guy that I am… I tell them “I’m doing me.”

Most people don’t understand that concept. They have a skewed understanding of what it means. To them it only means that I’m working, getting things done, and making enough money. WRONG! It means that I’m doing something I love regardless of monetary rewards. It means that I’m making sure that this thing I love is worth it for me to drop everything, like friends and that oh-so-tempting Vegas life.

To ‘do me’ means to love my life. My goal is to help people that are stuck and struggling to find their voice to FIND IT or CREATE IT then to ultimately LIVE IT.

Do you know what a tribe is? Seth Godin in his new book titled Tribes defines a tribe as ‘a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea’ (1).

My tribe: All the people needing or hurting because they can’t find their voice or their part in this ever-changing world.

The idea: To grow as a human being. To become more. To help each other. To teach each other how to find that voice and ultimately how to live it in such a way that by the end of their life they can say, “Damn that was a hard, long, and damn fun road, but OH MY GOD was it worth it! Let’s do it again!”

Coach Ron

So I finally stepped up. I coached a client during class today. And even though it was for a good 15 minutes where we had our session, I felt very accomplished. It started off with me being very very very nervous as to stepping up and coaching. I never did it in such a public corum before. But once I leaned into the coaching session and really got present in the moment. I flowed like Niagra Falls baby. It felt good to help my client reach a very different perspective in her thinking. It felt amazing to hear her transform her thought previous thought processes into something more empowering. Now that I am coaching people… I’m sure I’ll gain way more experience and a ton of more tools will be shown to me in ways I won’t expect. Bring it on baby. Let’s get this snowball rolling.

“DRIVE THE BOAT IN THE WATER AND NOT IN THE SAND”
coaching comment I made on finding the right vehicles to success. What’s your vehicle?

The meaning of purpose.

“My Purpose In Life is to Serve God and contribute to humanity by living out loud in a powerful, fun, dynamic, passionate, loving, and entertaining way by helping others live their life’s purpose, and by being an example of what God gives back to people that live a life of service and contribution.”

There have been people throughout human history that have tried to define why we’re here on this earth. What our purpose is in life. Then there are those that live life by the seat of it’s pants, no real direction and no real meaning. Personally, I believe, that what we decide for ourselves defines our purpose. I believe that the only way to a meaningful and fulfilled life is to live a life with meaning. Whatever your life means to you today is perfect. It’s right for this time in your life. You wake up because of that meaning, whether you know it or not. But are you living a life of warning? Or example?

We can’t control the cards we’re dealt, but we can definitely control how we play them. There will be times in your life where you feel that what you’re doing doesn’t fulfill you anymore. Learn to play that hand. Learn from that hand and realize that you’ve been dealt those cards for you to search and dig deeper inside of yourself to become more. To be more. To build your character. Experience all you can in the realm of uncertainty and your passion will be found. It is in the time of uncertainty that your character is shaped. Find your purpose. Live a life of no regret. Love life. Live well.

Leaning Into It

I’ve had a few big successes in my life these past few weeks. I’ve successfully demolished a few addictions that I care not to reveal at this point. But let me tell you, these addictions really took a toll on my life and the people I cared about most. I made other people responsible for who I was, made them responsible for what I needed in terms of money, and basically lied to many of them to get my way. A very selfish act on my part. It drained all my energy, I hated being that way. I hated my life because of what I used to do and be. But slowly I reached a point where I did a complete 180 and changed my life around. I realized that there is no quick-fix, and if there is; it never lasts. I found myself leaning into my life the way I wanted it to be.

I learned this “lean into life” strategy from Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul series. Leaning into life is a cool way of saying, to do things little by little with patience and to the best of your abilities. I decided to slowly pull away from destructive habits, I erased all the things that were not congruent to the way I wanted my life to be. And I slowly started to put myself in positions where I wanted my life to go. For example, I found this amazing website called Thank God I…. Check it out when you get a chance. But to make a long story short, they are looking for authors that want to be published. I had applied to be a part of it with the thought of, “I’ll just lean into this and see what happens.” I had detached myself from the outcome of wanting to be a published author, realizing that it’ll happen some day, one day, some how. So I wasn’t worried about it. Last night, I checked the voice-mail and to my surprise they called me back wanting to find out more information about ‘my story’. Now I haven’t called them back yet as it was very late at night when I got the message. If they decide to use me, great! But even just for the fact that they took the time to review my application and call me shows how awesome this ‘lean into life’ strategy works. I’m forever grateful for even the chance to have been called back. I’ll keep you folks updated on what happens. All this for a young 22 year old getting into the life coaching industry. I’m proud of who I am and proud of the steps I’m taking and have taken.

So remember folks, Lean Into Life! You never know what great things will happen if you just try to experience new things. The quality of your life is in direct proportion of the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with. Seek out that uncertainty and your passion will be found.

Indecisiveness

I’ve noticed a common thread with quarterlifers and generation-y. And the running theme is indecisiveness. Indecisiveness as to where to lead their life, what goals to achieve, and what matters most to them. And let me put it out straight and say that it’s okay to not know. It’s okay to be not okay at this point in our lives. We are constantly struggling figuring things out because we’re led believe that we need to know everything. But that’s impossible. Our indecisiveness comes from having too much in our lives. We have so much stimulus coming from family, friends, media, and our own set of beliefs and values that it’s hard to pinpoint what’s right. And we struggle and hurt because of it. We get stuck in the daily motion of things that we rarely know who we’ve become until it’s too late. And usually the person we become in the process isn’t what we hoped to be. Here’s something simple you can do every morning for 15 minutes to figure who you want to be and where you’d like your life to go.

15 minutes of quiet time is all you need. Get away from the distractions and sit quietly just thinking about who you’d want to be. And over time you’ll figure out what yuo’re meant to be in your lifetime. Sit thinking about where your strength lies, where your weaknesses are, and spend some time imagining who you’d like to become. 15 minutes of quiet for yourself and yourself only. Take the time to give back to yourself. It’ll work wonders for your life. Try it and let me know your results.

What is a coach?

There’s been a lot of breakthroughs and thoughts about coaching that has been running through my head lately. I was on the radio again for a follow up. Honestly I come from the school of, let’s figure out what’s wrong and work from there. As far as life coaching goes, ‘ragging’ on your client only makes things worse. There may be some that operate in that manner, but personally, being on air and ragged on by a life coach with a TON of credentials and credibility really put things in perspective of what a ‘performer coach’ is and what a ‘purist coach’ is. Now I’m not saying the session was bad… but it could have been handled way better in my eyes. Either way, the performer and the purist each have it’s pros and cons. My blend of coaching will add those pros together and build a thriving practice from the ground up. Excited!

Action vs. Delay

PT109: The 2nd session of Action Vs. Delay. Pretty interesting. What is Delay? It’s the opposite of action. Delay is the inaction of a person. Why does delay happen? Personally, I believe that there’s something deeper under the surface that’s causing the ‘flow’ to be interrupted. Figuring out where the blockage is, is what we discussed in our class today. And there were very diverse discussions as to how to lean into action to achieve their goals. During the coaching/client session I’ve come to really learn more about how and when I would introduce, share, and use my specific amount of tools with certain clients. And that’s a BIG WIN. It’s all falling under my House Model. A new refined version will be coming out in the next week. But for now here’s a preview:

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Foundation

I’ll pass along something in the Foundation part of this model for you to use today. As the day passes look for areas in your life where the ‘flow’ isn’t there. Just identify it for now and write it down. And in the next post I’ll share some questions and insights that I asked myself to overcome and breakthrough pretty much every single thing that was blocking my way to achieve more and be happier everyday.