The Twitter Phenom

I’ve been amazed by all the new Social Media content that’s been blasting it’s way through the internet today. Even PCWorld Magazine has a few page article explaining what twitter is and it’s uses and advantages of becoming a twitter phenom. It’s a simple an amazing way to ‘micro-blog’ your way to straight and to the point facts about what your doing. I registered with the Anthony Robbins Foundation as a Las Vegas Coordinator for this coming Thanksgiving Basket Brigade. Sites like, LinkedIn, Meetup.com, facebook, and Twitter helps me get the word out.there’s even a place called tweetup! haha. It’s all about efficiency and effectiveness these days. And even Nevada’s Early Voting is efficient and fast, no matter if you vote for Mccain or vote for Obama

With the world becoming smaller everyday thanks to sites like Google, Facebook, Myspace, Twitter, Meetup.com, and LinkedIn it’s easy to get caught up in the humdrum of daily life kind of forgetting and becoming robotic in nature. In a world that’s everchanging and uncertainty boils in times like these, the tools to quickly find oneself is key. So make sure to sit and relax in times like these. You never know what crazy idea you might come up with.

The Past 3 Months…

During the past 3 months I’ve been working with a coach. A requirement of ICA is to be coached by your peers at least once. It took a while for me to find a real coach I could mesh with. But once I did, little did I know how much of an impact it would have on my life. Within 3 months of coaching I successfully turned my life around. In 3 months alone I went from being a depressed and lonely little boy to a more mature grown young man. I went from the destructive habits of a Vegas party lifestyle (drugs and alcohol) to a life of gratitude. I’m grateful for the major shift that coaching has given me. I am now in alignment with my life. Gone are the days of fear, self-doubt, low self-esteem, destructive habits, loneliness, and misguided action. Here are the days of fulfillment; love, passion, faith, courage, self-honesty, and integrity.

3 months changed my life. Are you willing to change your life for the better? Or will you still be running east looking for that sunset?

I strive to be the best life/discovery coach for all 20-somethings and above. The goal is to help people find their purpose and meaning in life and help them live it. What’s your passion? Is it in you?

3 months can and will change your life.

The Tribe

Today is one of those days where you feel like you don’t want to do anything. I’ve been literally overworking myself to the bone. I haven’t been taking care of myself very well. After work, it’s back to home and the real work begins. I’ve pretty much been dealt the “Can you handle this?” hand. At this point it’s taking more effort for me to get up in the morning. The thing that’s fueled me even though I’m coughing up a storm has been my passion to get this life coaching thing on the road.

I talk to a bunch of customers at work and there are a few times where I meet the ‘right’ people. They just happen to pop up. I’ve been lucky enough or blessed enough to find these people and connect with them. People ask me what I do these days, and being the young, ambitious, inexperienced guy that I am… I tell them “I’m doing me.”

Most people don’t understand that concept. They have a skewed understanding of what it means. To them it only means that I’m working, getting things done, and making enough money. WRONG! It means that I’m doing something I love regardless of monetary rewards. It means that I’m making sure that this thing I love is worth it for me to drop everything, like friends and that oh-so-tempting Vegas life.

To ‘do me’ means to love my life. My goal is to help people that are stuck and struggling to find their voice to FIND IT or CREATE IT then to ultimately LIVE IT.

Do you know what a tribe is? Seth Godin in his new book titled Tribes defines a tribe as ‘a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea’ (1).

My tribe: All the people needing or hurting because they can’t find their voice or their part in this ever-changing world.

The idea: To grow as a human being. To become more. To help each other. To teach each other how to find that voice and ultimately how to live it in such a way that by the end of their life they can say, “Damn that was a hard, long, and damn fun road, but OH MY GOD was it worth it! Let’s do it again!”

Indecisiveness

I’ve noticed a common thread with quarterlifers and generation-y. And the running theme is indecisiveness. Indecisiveness as to where to lead their life, what goals to achieve, and what matters most to them. And let me put it out straight and say that it’s okay to not know. It’s okay to be not okay at this point in our lives. We are constantly struggling figuring things out because we’re led believe that we need to know everything. But that’s impossible. Our indecisiveness comes from having too much in our lives. We have so much stimulus coming from family, friends, media, and our own set of beliefs and values that it’s hard to pinpoint what’s right. And we struggle and hurt because of it. We get stuck in the daily motion of things that we rarely know who we’ve become until it’s too late. And usually the person we become in the process isn’t what we hoped to be. Here’s something simple you can do every morning for 15 minutes to figure who you want to be and where you’d like your life to go.

15 minutes of quiet time is all you need. Get away from the distractions and sit quietly just thinking about who you’d want to be. And over time you’ll figure out what yuo’re meant to be in your lifetime. Sit thinking about where your strength lies, where your weaknesses are, and spend some time imagining who you’d like to become. 15 minutes of quiet for yourself and yourself only. Take the time to give back to yourself. It’ll work wonders for your life. Try it and let me know your results.

Impulsive?

What?!?! I’m an impulsive thrillseeking whackjob! Well that’s how it was. I just gained a lot of new insight today about myself, about my coaching model, as well as how I’d like to coach. Coaching is the one thing that has been on my mind since I got into personal development. The benefits and rewards definitely outweigh all the hard work, the emotional fears and self doubt, that come with starting your own business. Coaching for me is the constant in my life right now. So why am I impulsive? No clue why… but it doesn’t matter because I’m finally aware that I am impulsive. I spend a good amount of time and energy reinforcing that behavior in neutral, favorable, and destructive ways. We all do that from time to time but for me it’s been a destructive habit. It spills into the financial area or my life which causes more stress than anything else. And really realizing it makes me see why I’m not progressing in other areas as well, specifically relationships. I’ll cling on to the first woman that displays interest in me, get clingy, and FORCE the relationship to work. Instead of taking a step back and analyzing how this will affect my life differently if this woman isn’t what I’m looking for. This same recurring habit effects my financial well being, spending foolishly on things that won’t add any value to my life. Or just plain spending too much without budgeting. Impulsive, which means, according to the Merriam Webster Dictionary:

Pronunciation: im-pl-siv
Function: adjective
1 : having the power of or actually driving or impelling
2 : actuated by or prone to act on impulse <impulsive behavior>
3 : acting momentarily

Growth & Reflection:
To grow from this I’ll have to accept that I simply a human being that has wants and needs. And although these wants and needs are struck by my impulsive nature, I must take the time to really think about things before acting. Before purchasing anything at all, I’ll give myself until the next day before I decide. If I find a lady that’s interesting, I’ll take the time to get to know her for at least 3 months before developing any emotional commitment to her. If I find myself acting on a situation to go out with my friends, I must make sure that my schedule permits me to do so. Before acting I must make a conscious effort to step back and reanalyze if the certain action will add value to my career goals and relationship goals. I must take the time to act on wisdom rather than impulse.

Alright… enough! New updates… I’ve added a new music page to the website, focusing on what certain musical inspirations have kept me moving forward. there will be regular updates, as well as new things added to this web site. But for now enjoy the new song: The Music Page

enjoy!

A mentor I need.

A rude awakening is something I need every now and then. I had this talk today with someone A big brother, so to speak. He knows what struggle I’m going through with focusing on school, work, and friends. He knows when I’m making excuses for myself. He knows that I’m a good guy. And he also knows how to give people the truth.

I figured out that I lie to myself. And I need to free myself from that. It’s been a habit since I can remember. If I lie to myself, what does that project to the people around me? That I can’t be trusted. I’ve lied to myself for so long, that I blurred truth with habit. And to break this habit I needed hard cold truth. Truth about myself, truth about family, truth about relationships, truth about life. I needed someone to tell me that I’m fucking up. That I’m better than what I think I am. That I’m worth going for what I need.

He’s a mentor I need. Thank you!

Penn & Teller Bullshit!

I’d like to open up a forum on what people think about the self-help industry. Personally I believe that what you think definitely motivates your actions. As far as the gimmicks of fire-walking, walking on glass, and breaking arrows and boards, I believe that they don’t do much. But it does add a form of reference to eliminate fear. Watch the video, see what you think. Again Penn & Teller are working on a bias of Bullshit. the 80/20 rule applies everywhere, even in the self-help industry. 80% of the people attending these seminars will sit and listen but not get anything out of the seminars, I used to be that way. The other 20% will gain the results. It’s a decision made personally to gain results daily, not by a seminar. Watch and learn and discuss.

Penn and Teller -Bullshit! – Self-Helpless

The Testing Grounds of Connection

Steve Jackson, author of The Mentor & The Judas has a website entitled: Six Degrees of Seperation, a research project to see how more connected we are now that the internet has come about. Theory states that we are all connected by 6 degrees of separation. Meaning to say, we are all connected. The experiment was done through Facebook, “a kind of Internet-in-miniature”, Steve calls it. Do you think he contacted everyone in Facebook? Check his site out and decide for yourself. But here’s a little tid-bit taken from his website, “Whether we’re separated by six degrees or ten degrees or one degree isn’t important. What is important is the idea that we are connected.”
- Steve Jackson (Six Degreees of Separation)

De La Soul

Hip Hop. So living in Las Vegas really brings out a few different characters. The Hard Rock held a concert at their Rehab pool last week Friday. The concert was from a group called De La Soul. Since 1988 they’ve been pumpin’ out records, albums, concerts, the whole package. 20 years! Now that’s what I call a calling to follow your passion. This group has seen so much already and they still love to put on a good show. The reason I loved their show so much wasn’t because the music was bangin, but more or less because they showed you how they lived, the showed you that with strength, faith, courage and determination dreams come true. And on top of all that, they are real people. Genuine to their core. If someone is being genuine, it’s a story. If someone is being fake, it’s a lie.

The Old Man…

Hi everyone! Glad to see everyone is still visiting this! Anyway something profound hit me in between the eyes last night. I’ve been taking some time off to get back in to the swing of things for ICA and work. My biggest hurdle is my mindset right now. I need to reframe from laziness and inefficiency, into dynamic progress and efficient progress. And what helped me yesterday to realize that? An old man getting his mail. Yep. I was sitting at the pool hanging out with a few friends yesterday, when all I could hear was a loud clunk and something dragging on the floor. I noticed it was this old man walking to get his mail. He was moving so slow, I really started to feel bad. But as I watched I calculated that it took about half an hour for him to get a mere 50 ft. Thinking nothing of it I went back to entertain the group of friends, swim, and chit-chat. About the time we leave, I see this old man now finally going back home after getting the mail.

Now imagine if it took you that long to get mail. Almost an hour of work to get a few pieces of paper stuffed in a box. Would you go through that? This man doesn’t know it but he’s taught so much about perseverance, determination, and to accept that challenges as they arise so we can overcome them. This old man, taught me that life really matters as long as you keep trying.