The Tribe

Today is one of those days where you feel like you don’t want to do anything. I’ve been literally overworking myself to the bone. I haven’t been taking care of myself very well. After work, it’s back to home and the real work begins. I’ve pretty much been dealt the “Can you handle this?” hand. At this point it’s taking more effort for me to get up in the morning. The thing that’s fueled me even though I’m coughing up a storm has been my passion to get this life coaching thing on the road.

I talk to a bunch of customers at work and there are a few times where I meet the ‘right’ people. They just happen to pop up. I’ve been lucky enough or blessed enough to find these people and connect with them. People ask me what I do these days, and being the young, ambitious, inexperienced guy that I am… I tell them “I’m doing me.”

Most people don’t understand that concept. They have a skewed understanding of what it means. To them it only means that I’m working, getting things done, and making enough money. WRONG! It means that I’m doing something I love regardless of monetary rewards. It means that I’m making sure that this thing I love is worth it for me to drop everything, like friends and that oh-so-tempting Vegas life.

To ‘do me’ means to love my life. My goal is to help people that are stuck and struggling to find their voice to FIND IT or CREATE IT then to ultimately LIVE IT.

Do you know what a tribe is? Seth Godin in his new book titled Tribes defines a tribe as ‘a group of people connected to one another, connected to a leader, and connected to an idea’ (1).

My tribe: All the people needing or hurting because they can’t find their voice or their part in this ever-changing world.

The idea: To grow as a human being. To become more. To help each other. To teach each other how to find that voice and ultimately how to live it in such a way that by the end of their life they can say, “Damn that was a hard, long, and damn fun road, but OH MY GOD was it worth it! Let’s do it again!”

Leaning Into It

I’ve had a few big successes in my life these past few weeks. I’ve successfully demolished a few addictions that I care not to reveal at this point. But let me tell you, these addictions really took a toll on my life and the people I cared about most. I made other people responsible for who I was, made them responsible for what I needed in terms of money, and basically lied to many of them to get my way. A very selfish act on my part. It drained all my energy, I hated being that way. I hated my life because of what I used to do and be. But slowly I reached a point where I did a complete 180 and changed my life around. I realized that there is no quick-fix, and if there is; it never lasts. I found myself leaning into my life the way I wanted it to be.

I learned this “lean into life” strategy from Jack Canfield, co-author of Chicken Soup for the Soul series. Leaning into life is a cool way of saying, to do things little by little with patience and to the best of your abilities. I decided to slowly pull away from destructive habits, I erased all the things that were not congruent to the way I wanted my life to be. And I slowly started to put myself in positions where I wanted my life to go. For example, I found this amazing website called Thank God I…. Check it out when you get a chance. But to make a long story short, they are looking for authors that want to be published. I had applied to be a part of it with the thought of, “I’ll just lean into this and see what happens.” I had detached myself from the outcome of wanting to be a published author, realizing that it’ll happen some day, one day, some how. So I wasn’t worried about it. Last night, I checked the voice-mail and to my surprise they called me back wanting to find out more information about ‘my story’. Now I haven’t called them back yet as it was very late at night when I got the message. If they decide to use me, great! But even just for the fact that they took the time to review my application and call me shows how awesome this ‘lean into life’ strategy works. I’m forever grateful for even the chance to have been called back. I’ll keep you folks updated on what happens. All this for a young 22 year old getting into the life coaching industry. I’m proud of who I am and proud of the steps I’m taking and have taken.

So remember folks, Lean Into Life! You never know what great things will happen if you just try to experience new things. The quality of your life is in direct proportion of the amount of uncertainty you can comfortably deal with. Seek out that uncertainty and your passion will be found.

The Big Idea: Donny Deutsch

The Big Idea: Donny Deutsch
CNBC

After watching a bit of The Big Idea with Donny Deustch I became increasingly intrigued by what his shows have been about recently. Todays episode dealt with over achievement and whether the skill of being an S.O.B. (Son of a b____) is needed to be successful. Big names like Mel Robbins (Make It Happen with Mel Robbins), Tom Colicchio (Tom Colicchio – Founder & Co-Owner, Craft Restaurants, Top Chef), Doctor Roger Schank (Founder, GrandparentGames.com), Wes Moss (Speaker, CFP & Radio Host – The Apprentice), and even Eric Trump (VP Development & Aquisitions, The Trump Organization)

Mel Robbins – Self Help With A New Attitude

Mel Robbins wrote an article for CNBC’s Big Idea called, The New Way To Play The Game Of Achievement

A highlight I really enjoyed in this article was this little gem she wrote, “If you want to be play the game of achievement – definitely try your hand at not being nice – that is – not being nice to YOURSELF…
try pushing yourself as far as you can possibly go? That’s what a true pressure-ridden, unapologetic S.O.B. would do. They’d unleash it on themselves.”

I’ll have to check out her radio show tomorrow. I’m liking The Big Idea!!!