What is a coach?

There’s been a lot of breakthroughs and thoughts about coaching that has been running through my head lately. I was on the radio again for a follow up. Honestly I come from the school of, let’s figure out what’s wrong and work from there. As far as life coaching goes, ‘ragging’ on your client only makes things worse. There may be some that operate in that manner, but personally, being on air and ragged on by a life coach with a TON of credentials and credibility really put things in perspective of what a ‘performer coach’ is and what a ‘purist coach’ is. Now I’m not saying the session was bad… but it could have been handled way better in my eyes. Either way, the performer and the purist each have it’s pros and cons. My blend of coaching will add those pros together and build a thriving practice from the ground up. Excited!

Action vs. Delay

PT109: The 2nd session of Action Vs. Delay. Pretty interesting. What is Delay? It’s the opposite of action. Delay is the inaction of a person. Why does delay happen? Personally, I believe that there’s something deeper under the surface that’s causing the ‘flow’ to be interrupted. Figuring out where the blockage is, is what we discussed in our class today. And there were very diverse discussions as to how to lean into action to achieve their goals. During the coaching/client session I’ve come to really learn more about how and when I would introduce, share, and use my specific amount of tools with certain clients. And that’s a BIG WIN. It’s all falling under my House Model. A new refined version will be coming out in the next week. But for now here’s a preview:

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I’ll pass along something in the Foundation part of this model for you to use today. As the day passes look for areas in your life where the ‘flow’ isn’t there. Just identify it for now and write it down. And in the next post I’ll share some questions and insights that I asked myself to overcome and breakthrough pretty much every single thing that was blocking my way to achieve more and be happier everyday.

What does coaching give me?

Coaching for me is like a 24 hour a day thing. Sometimes it saps my energy just constantly thinking about how I can make my coaching service better and readily available to the world. It definitely is challenging I have to admit. Sometimes I lose myself in my own thoughts and get jumbled up and lose focus. Thankfully to my peer coach, Linda Blaine, I’m able to set things at a consistent pace that I can handle. Coaching, like I said, is 24 hours. I live, breathe, and pretty much eat it. I’m surprised though. As much as I am passionate about coaching and how many tools I have in my arsenal, I realize that I’m no better than the average Joe who went into coaching. I feel that the coaching I give now is mediocre to the results I’m seeing from other coaches. Which is a good thing.  Why? Because it gives me a place to measure as I become better. It’s a 24 hour thing because I want to be the best at it.

I’ve come to terms with my fear of being alone. I realized it yesterday morning while on my coaching call. That’s what a powerful coach does! To help you realize what your fears are so you can overcome them. Through the process of classes in ICA, coaching calls, and talks with other people I believe I’ve become so much more of a better person. I realize that I have been coaching myself everyday since I’ve started ICA. I fell a few times and lost focus, but I’m back on track. I found that I can only eat an elephant one bite at a time. So right now we’re taking steps. Decreasing the impulsion to do things and give myself at least till the end of the day to think any decision over. That’s the first step. I think the next step is to channel those impulsions into something more concrete and stable. Like into finding my niche and target market.

Where am I going to position myself so that my coaching services will create extreme and lasting value for anyone in my target market?

What does coaching give me? An indescribable sense of purpose for myself, for my family and friends, and for the world. All the challenges makes it even that much more worth it in the end. It’s slow steady progress right now. And for that, I’m happy.

I challenge you to find your Purpose. Find your passion. And live your destiny.

If you need help finding your purpose here’s a link to the site of Tim Kelley, a speaker and author on Purpose Hunting(TM).